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Happy Sunday onku. Why have you stopped posting on your blog? Please continue. We're enjoying you. So my story is this. My girlfriend that we have been dating since secondary school days broke up with me this year's valentines day. That day was our first valentine outing we had since we were dating so I didn't really know much about valentine and how to be romantic on that day and things like that. But she wanted us to go out so bad that I had no other option than to take her out with the little change I had. On that day, I dressed up in my Jean and top and went to meet her in her place to take her out. The first thing she started screaming about was my dressing. I'm not dressed in red red, I'm not romantic, I'm not this, I'm not that. Onku, how can I be dressing in red red to take my girlfriend out because of Valentine?. When my father is not from sango family. OnkuAde, if you see her that day, she wore red top, red trouser and red shoe. I was even ash...

To achieve this, you have to be able to slip into the man's subconscious and make him think that he wants to fall in love with you. It's a lot of manipulation, but it's a good game. The key to a man's heart/subconscious is in the things he takes pleasure in. The alcohol he can not do without, the food he loves, the type of women he wants ET cetera.Now, you have to find out that unique thing your target man takes pleasure in. Once you do, familiarise yourself with it, know everything there is to know about it for your own advantage then you can take these steps... 1. Make sure he sees you frequently. Men are moved by what they see, not what they hear. Let his brain register that you're always everywhere. He's going to be in a restaurant, be there, alone. He's going to be at a party, be there for him to see. Be the picture he sees every day. And don't just be the picture that's everywhere, be everywhere for his viewing pleasure. He's a man, h...

I get at least 80% attention from my parents, The girl child is seen as the pride of her household, She is the apple of her father's eye. Her mother instills the best upbringing in her, Just so she can make her family proud when she finally gets to her in-laws. What can be said about the one who has been defamed? Leaving her all shattered, She has been defiled and striped of her pride, A stigma that leaves a lifetime scar, Rather than being showed love, hatred is all she gets. Her speech is lost, Extinguishing her dreams, She becomes inferior not only to the society but also to herself. Being a girl child doesn't make me an object of molestation, Being a girl child doesn't give anyone the right to snatch my voice before I can even speak, Being a girl child doesn't mean I can't hold a post in the society, Being a girl child doesn't mean I should only be showed the four walls of my father's house, I also deserve to see and experience what...

Now, it's not just about what you should expect in a boyfriend, it's about the standards you should set for yourself as a woman. The world has moved significantly to more magnificent advancements, and they come with their own problems. So, you shouldn't be facing relationship issues that are going to pull you back from facing your ambitions. You should be buckling up to face real-life challenges. Here are nine clues that can help you determine a destiny spoiler boyfriend that you should break up with; 1. If your boyfriend has zero composures, you have to leave him. Else he will spread out his stupidity  in public for you to sleep in one day. 2. If your boyfriend can't smart talk, leave him. He's not worth everything you're giving him. In today's world, you have to be smart, and you have to be able to talk smart to attract great people into your life. 3. If your boyfriend is abusive. Don't walk oh, Run! Or fly! Unless you really want to die be...

The only thing that can keep guys awake in the night is when they have made a relationship proposal to a girl and she has left them hanging so she can go and think about it. Mostly, we know you girls are not thinking about anything. Your mind has been made up already. Asking us to wait is just your way of trying to test how strong our love is for you. But I feel it's time girls start asking their boyfriend to be critical questions before they venture into a relationship with them. Before you do it, think about it, think about him, ask him critical questions. Not just, are you sure you love me type of question. Here are five solid questions to help you to that effect and some intelligent answers you should expect from him. 1: What makes me special to you? NOT; why do you love me? HIM: Your head, your brain, the way you try to answer questions in class, your dreams, your focus, your determination. The way you speak. Your vocabulary, It's wow! That's why you're s...

I had a girlfriend once [A female friend]. She was hopelessly in love with a guy for three years. For the period of three years, she did everything humanly possible to show and display her affection for this guy. After school, she would stop by at the market to buy vegetables, pepper, meat, fish, etc. She would go to the guy's house and make correct vegetables and semo or amala for him to eat. After that they would have sex for long hours, doing every sex style that's logically possible. By morning she would sweep the floor, wash his plates, wash his clothes, take care of his bathroom before she leaves to her own place to tend to her own life. She did that for three years before she found out that the guy she was dating for three years had a girl in another town he was keeping for marriage. When she confronted him, he asked her; did I ask you out? Did I tell you that I love you? Did I ever speak about having a relationship with you? My girlfriend broke, but she was able to...

Onku Ade good evening. I really enjoyed that your independence day rant, your mind is so big and fascinating. Click here to READ and follow all rants I'm a three hundred level student in unilag and I have been following your rants since like day one and that's why I'm coming to you now. So, see my own issue is that I've a boyfriend that his thing is not big enough to satisfy me. I'm not ashewo o. My present boyfriend is my third boyfriend in life. Our relationship is 6 months old and everytime we have sex like this, I don't always feel anything I won't lie, I always fake everything. Ah, I've suffered in the hands of his short thing. I want to tell him how I always feel after we have sex but I don't like making him feel bad so I won't talk. I'm here praying that one day he's going to wake up and know that I'm not enjoying his ride at all. It's my boyfriend's case that allowed me to confirm that short guys are always car...

Cultural and religious beliefs are two deeply rooted societal shareholders that frowns at most of a woman's opportunities to be who she wants to be and to be with whoever she wants to be with. Societal beliefs frown at women walking up to a man first to talk about the possibility of a sexual relationship because it expects that to be a man's role. I had my first relationship at a young age. I was young and innocent, but I had a huge and tall physicality with a very broad and smart mind to compliment my physicality and leave people doubting whether I was truly the age I said I was. I wouldn't and couldn't walk up to a girl at that age to ask for a relationship. I lacked the confidence to do so, and I just didn't know how. I admired girls from afar and I wanted to be with them but I just found it astonishingly difficult to walk up to a woman and shoot. I froze everytime I tried! Then, I fell in love with a girl and fortunately for me, I knew that she was in lo...

Most guys believe that it's necessary that they show masculinity and  capability of taking care of a girl's needs when they're out with her. And that masculinity involves taking care of the entire bills from the transport fare down to the table water. The general perception is; if you impress her during the day, she will impress you when it's night. But the times are shifting rapidly, women are taking charge now and they want to give it their all just to be in the driver's seat. Really, it doesn't matter who pays on a date, or who doesn't. Are you able to connect? Did you two bond together over food? Does your presence in each other's life assure confidence and stability? It's topics like this that should be up for discussion between the two of you. Back to the topic of this article, though. Now, if a girl offers to pay for anything when you two are on a date together, it shows that she's willing to sacrifice from her purse just as much as...

Really now? You want to handle an abusive partner? You have Buhari as your president; you still have to survive and be able to take care of your family yet, you want to carry an extra baggage of handling an abusive partner? The country, Nigeria, is massively abusive and mentally draining on its own. Talk more of having to stay put with an abusive partner. Any article that gives you tips or guidelines on how to properly deal with or handle an abusive partner is lying to you. You can't change anybody because of love. If your partner is the abusive type, it's their job to work on and manage themselves. Not yours! My dear, pack your bags and run. If you have a partner that deems it fit to abuse you in any way, it doesn't matter how many times they apologise and promise not to abuse you again, there's a 70% chance that they're going to do it again. So my dear, you have to walk. A partner than can abuse you is damaged somewhere. And, it's their job to go back hom...